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Problems with Time
Do you find that you don't have enough time to do everything that you want to? or that you "need" to? Some people take on too much. Some are simply not as organized as they might be. And some feel that they "need" to do certain things that, in fact, they don't really need to do.
What Causes a Person to Take on too Much?
Some people take on too much at work. Perhaps they are overly ambitious, but being driven will compromise their effectiveness. Perhaps they want to please, but worry about whether they have, or can, will create a drag on their functioning. Perhaps they find it difficult to set limits. Although they may not realize that they have this problem, the invasion of their boundaries will cause significant discomfort.
Sometimes it seems as though just doing the essentials is too much, as when one has both a job and children; especially when a parent is motivated to provide the best of everything for the kids: multiple after school activities, the best sports equipment, elaborate birthday parties and so forth. But, this parent will say, shouldn't my kids have the best that I can provide? Well, not if the result is an exhausted, frazzled parent.
What Causes Some People to Have Difficulty Being Organized?
Perhaps they haven't thought about the value of organization and haven't prioritized becoming more orderly. But also, there is always the temptation to respond to stimuli according to how urgent they seem (responding to a co-worker's request) or enticing they are (checking the email once again) rather than working more efficiently.
Why Do People Do Things that Don't Need to be Done?
Does something really "need" to be done? Perhaps not for the perceived need but for another need: reducing discomfort. Example: Cleaning a dirty tabletop on Monday reduces the discomfort caused by seeing the dirt and the cleaner enjoys a pleasurable spurt of dopamine. When Tuesday rolls around the tabletop is not dirty but as the cleaner looks at it again, he remembers that pleasure and reduplicates it by cleaning the table again. This activity can become generalized; all sorts of things that don't "need" to be done are repeated in order to reduce whatever discomforts a person is experiencing and to provide additional spurts of dopamine.
Dealing with Problems Having Enough Time
If you have any of these problems, you can work on eliminating them by using my complimentary Tool. In Step 3, instead of wishing to feel peaceful and calm, wish for a new mental pathway that will help you resolve them. If you have difficulty formulating this wish, email me at This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it. and I will help. (And each time you do self-hypnosis, all of the new mental pathways that you have created will be activated and will work on their respective goals.)
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