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The Resolution is Too Difficult
A resolution may fail because it is too difficult. In fact, that may be why it hasn't already been accomplished in the normal course of events. Rather than just giving up, try to analyze the reasons for the past difficulty and plan how to eliminate or circumvent them. If you can't keep a resolution to join a health club and exercise, it may be that there just doesn't seem to be time for it. It helps to analyze your schedule and find times that you can dedicate to that activity.
The Resolution Seems to Require a Lot of Will Power
If you rely on will power to make a change, you are actually adding a burden to the attempt because it has been shown that struggling to exert will power will result in increased stress levels, premature aging of the immune cells, and decreased feelings of well-being (as discussed in the blog of September 14). To transcend this difficulty, psychologist Greg Miller has shown that persistence in meeting a goal is more successful if a person doesn't depend on will power but simply thinks about things he feels grateful for and proud of, and expresses feelings of compassion for others.
The Resolution Involves Changing a Locked-in Habit Pattern
Established habit patterns, such as over-eating, have become locked in. You can change a habit pattern by using my complimentary Tool. In Step 3, instead of wishing to feel peaceful and calm, wish for a mental pathway in your mind to help you change the habit. Your wish must be phrased in a positive way, as described in the directions for using the Tool.
I wish you success in keeping your New Years' Resolutions.
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