You Probably Have Unrecognized Problems
There is a woman who stays away from windows. She doesn’t consider this a problem; as a matter of fact, she assumes that everyone avoids windows. Others don’t notice her avoidance because it is not obvious.
There is a man who never wears a necktie no matter how formal the occasion. People do notice this proclivity and they assume that he is simply militantly casual. But wearing a tie is not an issue that he feels strongly about; he doesn’t really think about it at all.
Another man, though quite religious, avoids going to church. He doesn’t know why but he doesn’t really think about it.
What's Going on Here?
None of these behaviors have bothered these people. Avoiding windows, neckties, and even church hasn’t been a big deal to them. But these telltale quirks signal a past traumatic event that has been held out of awareness because it was so overwhelming at the time. With the help of their Inner Guides these people have learned what those past events were and how they have led to the ongoing habits. At age three the woman who avoids windows was punished for leaning out a window. At age two the man who doesn’t wear a necktie endured a painful medical procedure on his neck. And during elementary school the religious man learned that one of his friends had warned him to avoid a certain priest.
Although none of these early experiences was devastating, they were sufficiently traumatic to have been held out of awareness, and a current stimulus (a window, a necktie, church) evokes an avoidance reaction.
Hidden Traumas are Universal
Most people have one or more hidden traumas from the past because children are very easily traumatized. Everything is new to them, so each stimulus is stronger than it will be later as they grow and develop. The stronger the stimulus, the more likely it is to be traumatic (and therefore, held out of awareness).
You may have noticed other people's minor quirks, but you won’t notice your own because it is part of the protective mechanism to be oblivious to them. An Inner Guide detects them and works to solve them, to make the resulting quirks unnecessary. But, more importantly, this decreases one's stress, because these problems, minor though they are, contribute to one's overall stress level.
Your Own Inner Guide
Soon you will be offered the opportunity to create your own Inner Guide. In the meantime, use the Emotional Comfort® Tool to learn how to do self-hypnosis. By developing a regular practice of self-hypnosis, you'll be assured of success when you create your own Inner Guide.
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